A couple of weeks ago I completed reading, Emotional Intelligence 2.0, written by Travis Bradberry and Jean Greaves (TalentSmart, San Diego, 2009). My good friend, Andy Bunn, highly recommended it. Andy is near completion of a Ph.D. in leadership studies and the subject of EQ is important.
Sidenote: Andy is the head of Leadership Vistas, a missions agency that trains pastors and church leaders in Africa. If your church is looking for a way to provide excellent training for national pastors who have no training, contact Andy.
I’m glad I read the book. Especially when I read this:
“We’ve tested EQ alongside 33 other important skills and found that it subsumes the majority of them, including time management, decision-making, and communication” (p. 20, emphasis added).
Preaching is communication. Preaching is a form of communication that involves a mixture of ability and spiritual gift. From a human perspective, a preacher’s EQ greatly affects their ability to communicate with others. Everything we do during a sermon happens within the context of relationships we have with our congregants. Our EQ largely determines the success of those relationships.
I’m also glad I took the EQ test. If you purchase the book, you’ll receive a code that provides access to the test. It took about 15-20 minutes. I took the test on June 15, 2017 because I didn’t want to just guess and think I had a relatively high EQ. My scores out of 100 were:
Personal Competence: 93 (combined score of self-awareness and self-management)
Self-Awareness: 88 (the ability to accurately perceive my own emotions and staying aware of them as they happen)
Self-Management: 98 (utilizing that knowledge to affect my behavior)
Social Competence: 95 (combined score of social awareness and relationship management)
Social Awareness: 95 (the ability to perceive the emotions of others)
Relationship Management: 95 (utilizing that knowledge to build effective relationships)
Overall EQ score: 94
The perfectionist in me was disappointed. I resisted the urge to re-test.
If you’ve never read anything on EQ, I recommend this book; if it’s been a while since you’ve read about EQ, I recommend this book. It will help you remember how much pastoral preaching is relational. It will help remind you to work as much on your relationships as you do on your messages…
and all for God’s glory in the church and in Christ Jesus (Ephesians 3:21).
Randal
This post was originally published on June 28, 2017.